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BDSM, Kink, and Fetishes are the topics I have the pleasure of exploring on today’s episode of Myths, Mating, & Mindset with Sex Therapist, Dr. Melvin Phillips. We unpack some common misconceptions about the psychology of kink, the roles of dominance and submission, how pleasure and pain relate, and how to play safely and consensually. Dr. Phillips offers advice and guidance on how to introduce BDSM and kink into your relationships and where to find like-minded people near you. Visit Dr. Phillips at www.drleephillips.com. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

EPISODE 32: LET’S TALK ABOUT OPENING UP RELATIONSHIPS! TODAY’S PODCAST IS ABOUT OUR SEXY VACATION TO DESIRE RESORT & SPA RIVIERA MAYA. WE’RE TALKING ABOUT HOW TO NAVIGATE THE CONVERSATION OF OPENING UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP, HOW TO COMMUNICATE YOUR WANTS & WISHES INSIDE AND OUTSIDE THE BEDROOM, YOUR WANDERING DESIRE FOR OTHERS, AND HOW TO INVITE ANOTHER COUPLE/SINGLE TO PLAY WITH YOU WHILE STAYING AT A SEXY RESORT LIKE DESIRE. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

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EPISODE 31: SEX & MASCULINITY (PT 2 OF 2) – THIS IS PART 2 OF OUR CONVERSATION ON MASCULINITY WHERE WE GET REAL ABOUT THE CHALLENGES MEN FACE WITH STRICT GENDER CONFORMITY AND HOW IT TIES IN WITH RELATIONSHIPS. TODAY WE’RE FOCUSING ON SEX – THE MYTHS, THE MISCONCEPTIONS, AND THE REFLECTIONS INCLUDING THE MYTH THAT MEN ARE “EASY” AND CONSTANTLY “READY TO GO”, THE PATRIARCHAL POLICING OF MEN BY USING THE TERM “GAY” FOR A MAN WHO DOESN’T FOLLOW THE HETERO-NORMATIVE MALE CODE, AND SEXUAL FLUIDITY IS NOT THE SAME THING AS SEXUAL ORIENTATION. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 30: BY MEN FOR MEN – CHALLENGES OF MASCULINITY (PT 1 OF 2) – TODAY, I’M SITTING DOWN WITH A ROOM FULL OF DIVERSE MEN TO TALK ABOUT THE CHALLENGES OF MASCULINITY. THE REASON I WANTED TO FACILITATE THIS DISCUSSION IS TO BRING TO LIGHT SOME OF THE POINTS AND PERSPECTIVES ON WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A MAN IN MODERN DAY, TOLD BY MEN. EVERYONE, REGARDLESS OF HOW THEY PRESENT OR IDENTIFY, SHOULD HAVE A VESTED INTEREST IN LOOSENING THE TIGHT GRIP OF PATRIARCHAL MASCULINITY BECAUSE IT NOT ONLY HURTS WOMEN AND LGBTQ PEOPLE, BUT IT HURTS MEN, TOO. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 29: TRANSGRESSION, CRUSHES, AND MONOGAMISH – TODAY, I’M TALKING ABOUT TRANSGRESSION – WHAT’S BEHIND IT, WHY DO WE DO IT, AND HOW DO WE MAKE SENSE OF IT WITHIN COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS. AND BECAUSE YOU CAN’T REALLY TALK ABOUT TRANSGRESSION WITHOUT MENTIONING MONOGAMY AND ATTRACTION FOR OTHERS, WE’RE TALKING ABOUT THAT, TOO. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 28: AMAZING FEMALE ORGASMS WITH SEX ADVISOR SUSAN BRATTON – TODAY, I TALK WITH TRUSTED HOT SEX ADVISOR TO MILLIONS, THE FAMOUS SUSAN BRATTON, AS SHE SHARES ALL THE WAYS WOMEN CAN ORGASM, HOW TO INITIATE DIRTY TALK, HER FAVORITE SEX TOYS, AND MUCH MORE. SUSAN IS A CHAMPION AND ADVOCATE FOR ALL WHO DESIRE PASSIONATE RELATIONSHIPS. CONSIDERED THE “DEAR ABBY OF SEX,” SUSAN’S FRESH APPROACH AND ORIGINAL IDEAS HAVE HELPED MILLIONS OF PEOPLE OF ALL AGES AND ACROSS THE GENDER SPECTRUM TRANSFORM SEX INTO PASSION. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 27: (SEXY STORY) A TASTE OF TRANSGRESSION – ONE WOMAN’S SEXUAL CONFLICT – THIS EPISODE IS AN EROTIC STORY ABOUT ONE WOMAN WHO FOUND HERSELF ENTICED BY THE FORBIDDEN: HER ROOMMATE’S BOYFRIEND. THIS MORAL DILEMMA LEFT HER PUZZLED AND CONFLICTED AS TO WHY THIS TRANSGRESSION WAS SO ALLURING. AS A COACH WHO IS GREATLY INSPIRED BY ESTHER PEREL, THERE’S AN INFINITE AMOUNT OF GREY THAT COMPLICATES OUR HUMAN EXPERIENCE, AND WHEN WE IMMEDIATELY CONDEMN AND DEMONIZE BEFORE WE HAVE EVEN SOUGHT TO UNDERSTAND WHY, WE MISS THE LESSONS WITHIN THE JOURNEY, AND WE DISILLUSION OURSELVES INTO BELIEVING THAT MERE MORALITY WILL INOCULATE US FROM HISTORY REPEATING ITSELF. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

EPISODE 26: RELIGION AND SEXUAL SHAME – ONE COUPLE’S STORY OF SEXUAL REPRESSION – IF YOU’VE EVER STRUGGLED WITH GUILT OR SHAME AROUND YOUR SEXUALITY THAT HAS ROOTS IN YOUR RELIGION, LISTEN TO THIS COUPLE SHARE THEIR EMBARRASSING AND RAW STRUGGLES WITH MANAGING SEXUAL DESIRE WHILE CONFLICTING WITH THE SHAMING MESSAGES FROM THEIR FAITH. CREATORS OF THE “SHOW UP NAKED” PODCAST, ERIC & STEPHANIE MOLLETTA, CONFESS TO ALL THE HUMILIATING DETAILS SURROUNDING THE SHAME & GUILT OF THEIR RELIGIOUS PAST. WATCH VIDEO HERE (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 25: TOXIC MASCULINITY – REDEFINING GENDER ROLES & MYTHS OF MALE SEXUALITY – AS THE #METOO MOVEMENT PROGRESSES, MEN ARE FEELING ANXIOUS ABOUT NAVIGATING THE CURRENT CLIMATE WITH GENDER NORMS CHANGING AND MASCULINITY BEING UNDER SCRUTINY. TODAY, I’M DISCUSSING TOXIC MASCULINITY, REDEFINING GENDER ROLES, AND HOW SOME OF OUR SEXUAL STEREOTYPES ABOUT MEN DIRECTLY IMPACT THEIR SEX LIVES IN A NEGATIVE WAY. WATCH VIDEO HERE(CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 24: THE END OF AN AFFAIR – TODAY’S SHOW IS BASED ON A TRUE STORY ABOUT AN AFFAIR. MARCO, A SUCCESSFUL BUSINESSMAN, FINDS HIMSELF UNEXPECTEDLY IN THE THROWS OF AN AFFAIR, AND IS LEFT CONFLICTED ABOUT THE DILEMMAS FACING HIS MARRIAGE. MY HOPE IS THAT THAT THROUGH THE TELLING OF THIS STORY, WE MIGHT ADD A LITTLE COMPLEXITY AND HELPFUL INSIGHT TO AN AGE-OLD DILEMMA FOR THE SAKE OF RELATIONSHIPS EVERYWHERE, ESPECIALLY FOR ANYONE WHO HAS EVER LOVED. (NAMES AND IDENTIFYING DETAILS HAVE BEEN CHANGED TO PROTECT THE PRIVACY OF INDIVIDUALS.) (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 23: LEGACIES OF SEXUAL ABUSE: HOW TO RESHAPE YOUR STORY AND SPEAK YOUR TRUTH WITH LYNN EVERARD – MY GUEST TODAY SHARES A DARK FAMILY SECRET RIDDEN WITH SHAME – HE WAS BIRTHED OUT OF INCEST. HE OPENS UP ABOUT HIS EXPERIENCES WITH AN ALCOHOLIC FATHER AND LEARNING THE SHOCKING TRUTH ABOUT WHERE HE CAME FROM. LYNN EVERARD IS NOW AN AUTHOR, A LIFE COACH, AND A SPEAKER, HOPING TO SHARE HIS HEARTFELT MESSAGE WITH THE WORLD ABOUT HOW SPEAKING YOUR TRUTH COULD SAVE YOUR LIFE. VISIT LYNN’S WEBSITE HERE. WATCH VIDEO HERE. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 22: HIDDEN MEANINGS OF SEXUAL FANTASIES – PT 2 – I’M EXPLORING SOME PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORIES BEHIND SOME OF THE MOST POPULAR SEXUAL FANTASIES. HERE ARE A FEW OF THE ONES I COVER TODAY: RAPE FANTASIES, S&M, MASTER/SLAVE, DIAPERED & BABIED, ASPHYXIATION, GOLDEN/BROWN SHOWERS, GROUP SEX, AND INCEST. EDUCATE YOURSELF ON WHERE YOUR FANTASIES COME FROM AND WHAT THEY MIGHT MEAN, BUT BE CAUTIOUS NOT TO USE SEXUAL FANTASY INTERPRETATIONS AS A ONE-SIZE-FITS-ALL EXPLANATION, AS IT DEPENDS ON THE PERSON AND THEIR UNIQUE CIRCUMSTANCES. BUT THEORIES CAN BRING US GENERALIZATIONS THAT CAN BE HELPFUL AT TIMES TO EXPLAIN COMMONALITIES AMONG LARGE GROUPS. WATCH VIDEO HERE. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 21: HIDDEN MEANINGS OF SEXUAL FANTASIES – PT 1 – IF YOU’RE THE LEAST BIT CURIOUS TO KNOW WHERE YOUR BIGGEST SEXUAL FANTASIES PROBABLY COME FROM, I PROMISE YOU’LL WANT TO HEAR THIS ONE. ON THIS TWO-PART EPISODE, I EXPLAIN HOW AND WHY WE CREATE OUR SEXUAL FANTASIES BY EXPLORING THE DEEPER, PATHOGENIC BELIEFS THAT WE DEVELOP ABOUT OURSELVES IN RELATION TO OUR PRIMARY CAREGIVERS IN CHILDHOOD, AND HOW SOMETHING YOU MIGHT LEAST EXPECT IS THE ONE NECESSARY INGREDIENT TO BECOMING SEXUALLY AROUSED. WATCH VIDEO HERE (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 20: COME SH** NEXT TO ME: COPROPHILIA & HOMOEROTICISM – MY ONLINE DATING CONNOISSEUR IS BACK TO TELL ABOUT A COUPLE OF HER MORE SURPRISING ENCOUNTERS, NAMELY A COUPLE OF SUITORS’ PREFERENCES FOR COPROPHILIA (A SEXUAL AFFINITY FOR DEFECATION, I.E. POOP) AND HOMOEROTICISM (A SAME-SEX ATTRACTION, BUT NOT NECESSARILY ACTED UPON). THESE ARE 2 DISTINCT TOPICS WE DISCUSS AND THEREFORE HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH EACH OTHER IN THIS CONTEXT SO LET’S NOT EQUATE THEM TOGETHER. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 19: HER LITTLE RED THONG | SEXY STORY – TODAY’S EPISODE IS ANOTHER EROTIC STORY ABOUT A HOT COLLEGE STUDENT NAMED RUSS WHO FINALLY HOOKED UP WITH HIS SEXY GYM CRUSH LATE ONE NIGHT AFTER A SWEATY WORKOUT. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 18: MILLENNIALS & SEX: HOW SEXUALITY & RELATIONSHIPS ARE EVOLVING – SINGER/SONGWRITER ALBERT ANGARITA AND I TALK ABOUT HOW SEXUALITY, RELATIONSHIPS, DATING, AND MARRIAGE IS CHANGING IN THE MILLENNIAL AGE WITH MORE ACCESS TO INFORMATION, EDUCATIONAL TOOLS, AND HISTORICAL ARCHIVES THAT ALLOW US TO MAKE BETTER DECISIONS IN LIFE AND LOVE. WE DISCUSS POWER, PRIVILEGE, AND EXPANDING OUR CONSCIOUSNESS TO BECOME MORE EVOLVED AS HUMAN BEINGS. MY GUEST ALBERT ANGARITA IS AN INCREDIBLY TALENTED BILINGUAL SPANISH SINGER/SONGWRITER, ENTREPRENEUR, WRITER, POET, PUBLIC SPEAKER, AND MARTIAL ARTS/TAEKWONDO CHAMPION. WATCH OUR VIDEO CONVERSATION HERE! (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 17: SEX & LOVE WHEN YOU ARE SICK – TODAY I’M TALKING WITH A SEX THERAPIST WHO TREATS PATIENTS AND COUPLES FACING CHRONIC ILLNESS AND SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION. HIS UPCOMING BOOK, SEX & LOVE WHEN YOU ARE SICK, ADDRESSES STRATEGIES TO OVERCOME SHAME AND SEXUAL LIMITATIONS FROM THE ILLNESS. WE ALSO TALK POLYAMORY, MONOGAMY, AND SEXUAL COMMUNICATION. FOR MORE INFORMATION, VISIT WWW.DRLEEPHILLIPS.COM. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 16: SEX & DATING WITH A DISABILITY – TODAY I TALK OPENLY WITH A MAN WHO BECAME PARALYZED FROM A CAR ACCIDENT, LEAVING HIM IN A WHEELCHAIR, AND HOW IT RECONSTRUCTED HIS HIS SEX AND DATING LIFE. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 15: SEXY STORY – GYM SEX WITH THE BOSS – TODAY’S SEXY STORY IS ABOUT A HOT, YOUNG PERSONAL TRAINER AND HIS BOSS HAVING SEX AT THE GYM, WHERE HE LEARNS EXACTLY HOW TO PLEASE THIS OLDER WOMAN. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 14: OPEN RELATIONSHIPS & NON-MONOGAMY – HEAR FROM A COUPLE WHO HAS SUCCESSFULLY NAVIGATED AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP AFTER ENDING DYING MARRIAGES, FINDING SEXUAL FREEDOM, AND TRANSITIONING FROM SERIAL MONOGAMY TO CONSENSUAL NON-MONOGAMY. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 13: ABUSE, TRAUMA, & ME – MANY OF US DON’T REALIZE HOW DEEPLY AFFECTED OUR PRESENT-DAY SELVES ARE BY THE ABUSE, TRAUMA, AND PAIN FROM OUR PASTS. TODAY, I’M SHARING MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WITH THESE ICKY TOPICS, BUT WITHIN IT THERE IS HOPE, GRATITUDE, AND LIGHT. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 12: PORN, MASCULINITY, AND AUTHENTICITY – TODAY, I TALK WITH AN ACADEMIC RESEARCHER ABOUT HOW PORN ISN’T LIVING UP TO ITS FULL POTENTIAL AS A TOOL TO IGNITE EROTICISM AND SEXUAL EXPLORATION. WE DISCUSS HOW TO BRING AUTHENTICITY AND RESPONSIBILITY TO OUR CONSUMPTION OF PORN IN AN INDUSTRY THAT’S INFLUENCING (AND MIRRORING) MEN’S SENSE OF MASCULINITY AND THEIR ATTITUDES ABOUT WOMEN. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 11: THE SEX APPEAL OF OLDER WOMEN – LISTEN TO AN ONLINE DATING CONNOISSEUR AS SHE RECOUNTS HOW DATING APPS HAVE REVOLUTIONIZED SEXUAL FANTASIES, SPECIFICALLY HER EXPERIENCES AS AN OLDER WOMAN DATING YOUNGER MEN. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 10: 9 PREDICTORS OF DIVORCE – BY USING THESE 9 PREDICTORS OF DIVORCE, RESEARCHERS CAN TELL WITH 85% ACCURACY WITHIN JUST A FEW MINUTES IF A COUPLE IS GOING TO MAKE IT LONG TERM OR NOT. THIS RESEARCH COMES FROM 20 YEARS OF STUDYING COUPLES’ RELATIONSHIPS ACROSS ALL RACIAL GROUPS, INCOME LEVELS, SOCIAL CLASSES, AND SEXUAL ORIENTATIONS. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 9: SEXY STORY – SWINGERS AND SALVATION – THIS EROTIC STORY ILLUMINATES A LIVELY COUPLES THAT TRIES A SWINGER’S CLUB FOR THE FIRST TIME TO INVITE MORE PASSION INTO THEIR LOVE LIVES AFTER 20 YEARS OF MARRIAGE TOGETHER. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 8: SEXY STORY – A MÉNAGE À TROIS IN PARIS – TODAY’S SHOW IS ANOTHER SEXY, SHORTY STORY ABOUT A ONE WOMAN’S SEXUAL LIBERATION UNEXPECTEDLY FOUND THROUGH A MÉNAGE À TROIS IN PARIS. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 7: SIGNS YOU’VE LOST YOURSELF IN A RELATIONSHIP & WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT – TODAY WE TAKE A HIS & HERS APPROACH TO THE ISSUE OF LOSING YOURSELF IN A RELATIONSHIP. AS A MARRIED COUPLE WHO HAS BEEN THROUGH IT AND SURVIVED, WE’LL COVER WHAT THE SIGNS ARE THAT YOU’VE BECOME UNHAPPY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT. MAYBE YOUR PARTNER HAS LOST THEMSELVES AND YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW TO HELP – WE’LL COVER THAT, TOO. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 6: SEXY STORY – TATTOOS AND TEMPTATION – TODAY, WE’RE SHARING ANOTHER SEXY STORY TO AWAKEN YOUR EROTIC IMAGINATION. THIS ONE IS ABOUT A CONSERVATIVE SOUTHERN GENTLEMAN WHO FINDS HIMSELF UNEXPECTEDLY CRUSHING ON HIS SEDUCTIVE TATTOOED BARTENDER, LEADING TO A STEAMY NIGHT OF SHOWER SEX. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 5: YOUR SEXUAL ACCELERATOR AND BRAKES – HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED WHERE YOUR AROUSABILITY COMES FROM? OR IN OTHER CASES, WHERE IT’S GONE? LET’S TALK ABOUT HOW YOUR BRAIN CONTROLS YOUR ABILITY TO RESPOND TO SEXUALLY RELEVANT STIMULI (YOUR ACCELERATOR), AND HOW IT CONTROLS YOUR RESPONSE TO POSSIBLE THREATS (YOUR BRAKES). (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 4: SEXY STORY – A DOMINATRIX FOR DINNER – WE ALL KNOW AN ALPHA MALE OR TWO, BUT HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED WHAT IT WOULD BE LIKE TO SEE HIM ON BOTTOM? OR BETTER YET, ON HIS KNEES? TAKE A LISTEN TO THIS HOT STORY OF SEDUCTIVE SURRENDER. TODAY, WE’RE SHARING OUR SEXY STORY OF THE WEEK INSPIRED BY REAL PEOPLE AND REAL EVENTS. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 3: IGNITE YOUR EROTIC PLAY – HAVE THINGS TURNED A LITTLE STALE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP? OFTENTIMES WE FIND OURSELVES DEVOID OF PASSION OR SEXUAL INTEREST IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS AFTER WE’VE BEEN TOGETHER A WHILE. TODAY’S SHOW WILL SPARK YOUR EROTIC IMAGINATION WITH SOME PRACTICAL TIPS TO GET YOUR WHEELS TURNING, AND MAYBE IT’LL MAKE YOU THINK BACK TO SOMETHING SEXY YOU USED TO DO WHEN YOU WERE FIRST TOGETHER THAT YOU GOT OUT OF THE HABIT OF DOING. REMEMBER, IT’S NOT ABOUT QUANTITY, IT’S ABOUT QUALITY. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 2: SEXY STORY – THE FIRST ORGASM – TODAY, WE’RE SHARING OUR SEXY STORY OF THE WEEK INSPIRED BY REAL PEOPLE AND REAL EVENTS THAT MIGHT ENCOURAGE SOME PLAYFUL EXPLORATION OR IGNITE SOME PASSION TO BRING BACK TO YOUR LOVER. THESE STORIES ARE MEANT TO AWAKEN YOUR EROTIC IMAGINATION. IN THIS STORY, TAKE A VICARIOUS RIDE ON A YOUNG WOMAN’S FIRST EXPERIENCE OF BLISSED OUT ORGASMIC PLEASURE AFTER FALLING IN LOVE FOR THE FIRST TIME. (CLICK TO LISTEN)

 

 

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EPISODE 1: SEX IN PERSPECTIVE – A LOOK BEHIND THE SCENES – WHY IS SEX SO IMPORTANT? THE QUALITY OF OUR SEX AND ROMANCE AFFECTS HOW WE LIVE OUR LIVES – AND WHEN IT’S BAD IT BECOMES ALL CONSUMING. LET’S EXPLORE SOME OF THE UNDERLYING LAYERS TO SEX AND AN OVERVIEW OF THE PSYCHOLOGY BEHIND OUR INTEREST IN SEX. (CLICK TO LISTEN)