Today’s episode of Myths, Mating, & Mindset is one of our sexy short stories. This time, it’s about a dancer on a cruise ship named Kim who falls for her boss, and winds up feeling the freedom of surrender.

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Want to stop having painful sex, both anal and vaginal, and even use orgasms as pain relievers? Former vagina coach, Dr. Monika Stefanowicz, helps women and men who experience pelvic pain reclaim their sex lives. She teaches her patients how to improve bladder control (postpartum or otherwise), how to have tighter sex, and how to compassionately view ourselves in relation to chronic pain to enjoy sexual pleasure again. Dr. Monika is not your typical doctor who can often seem unapproachable and sterilized. Instead, she makes talking about sexual pain fun and lighthearted, adding in humor to the conversations about pee, poop, and sex!


Dr. Monika Stefanowicz is a physical therapist who specializes in pee, poop, sex, and persistent pelvic pain problems. She helps her clients understand the most intimate parts of their body so they can enjoy all that life has to offer. Dr. Monika uses a holistic spirit, mind, body, and emotion approach with each client to create their roadmap for healing. She earned her Bachelors in Health Science and Doctorate in Physical Therapy from Springfield College before pursuing residency training in pelvic health at Brooks Rehabilitation. Dr. Monika has been happily blogging about pelvic health & holistic wellness since 2015 at A first-generation Polish immigrant, she now calls Silicon Valley, California home. She can regularly be spotted reading/writing at local coffee shops and exploring farmer’s markets on the weekends. The best way to reach Dr. Monika is via Instagram @liftlaughkegel.

Today’s episode of Myths, Mating, and Mindset is another erotic short story. This one is about a woman named Laney who has always fantasized about having a room full of sexy men that she gets to use for her pleasure, making them wait in line to please her. And she finally gets her wish.


Laney surveyed the men in front of her. And she knew that all her hard work had been worth it.

It had started off as an inkling at the back of her mind, a mere thought that perhaps she needed more than the bare minimum to keep her satisfied. She’d been with a lot of men, and not one of them seemed able to keep up with her searing libido. 

And so, like a good modern twenty-something year old woman, she had turned to the internet. And there, she had found communities of women bemoaning the same problems as her. Most of them were just complaining about their lack of satisfying partners. But there was one small group that caught her eye. A group who seemed better suited to her needs.

It shocked her at first to know there were other women like her out there. Other women who craved what she craved. But there they were – the only difference being, of course, that they were actually indulging their wide-ranging tastes, any way they saw fit to do so.

She made herself part of their society as soon as she got the chance. And she watched, as these women indulged themselves in ways she had only imagined before. Different men, any way they wanted. Submissive men of every creed and colour and build, all willing to do anything these women  wanted. Usually several of them at a time. At first, Laney wasn’t sure she could handle more than one. 

But when the opportunity arose for her to travel down to Vegas to meet with the group for the first time, she took it immediately.

She flew out to Vegas not knowing what to expect. The group told her she would be taking over the complementary suite for the night, and she couldn’t imagine what was waiting there for her. Most of the women involved in this club were older, cougars, searching after many years to find someone to satisfy them. Not Laney. She was just starting her journey, and vital, full of…

Full of men. 

That was the only thought that crossed her mind as she walked into the room for the first time, the room that had been filled with the men who were waiting for her. All five of them. Two confident men, strong and tall and broad-shouldered; another eager man with a shaved head and a thin wiry frame, and two very well hung men with muscular builds. They were already naked. All of them, kneeling there. Waiting for her. She felt like a kid on Christmas morning.

“Now, where should I begin?” She said out loud, scanning the men before her and tapping her finger on her lip. Surely, all of them at once would serve to satisfy her. She intended to find out, that was for sure.

“You, there,” she ordered the guy with the shaven head. “On your knees, and open your mouth.”

She watched with awe as he did as he was told. How long had she imagined someone obeying her every command like that? She moved towards him, and rolled up her dress – she had gone without panties, as advised – and slowly lowered her pussy down on to his mouth. His cock started to grow from the image of her thighs coming down on his face, and he smelled her juices between her lips.

And with that, the night belonged to her. She was dizzy with fulfilling her fantasies the way she had always craved, using these men as she saw fit. She let them all go down on her, changing position, parting her legs and grasping their heads and pushing them roughly down on to her pussy, rubbing their nose along her clit, grinding in rhythm with the friction of their faces. Normally, she would have hurried to get to the fucking to make sure her male partner didn’t grow bored, but here and now, she knew that this was all about her. She came once, twice, three times – already losing count as she grinded her clit against their tongues, delighting in the glistening wetness she left on their faces. 

She took one of the well hung men first, lowering herself down slowly onto his gorgeous cock and letting out a long moan as she eased it into herself. She rode him until she felt his cock twitch inside her, and grasped his face to watch him come – she came again herself watching him tip over the edge and feeling the girth of his dick widening inside her pussy.

After he was spent, she pushed him to his knees behind her as she took the cock of the next man – one of the tall guys, thick and solid, who hitched her off the ground and held her in place as he fucked her. The man behind her ran his tongue over her asshole, sending her panting towards the edge. She set the pace firmly, ordering the man she was fucking to slow down and then when to speed up, digging her nails roughly into his back to let him know when he was being a good boy. She came twice with him, her pussy already aching – and aching for more.

“Stroke yourselves while you watch,” she breathlessly ordered the others. “I want you ready when I get to you.”

And they were. She fucked them all in turn, and used them any other way she saw fit. She made one man look into her eyes as she rode his dick till she came, and then lifted herself off of him. When it came his turn to fuck her again, he went so hard and so desperate she felt her pussy spasming at once. 

She came a total of sixteen times that night, or maybe more, she lost count. By the time she was done with the men, they had all fucked her, sucked her, licked her, and pleased her any way they could. Panting, she caught her breath and surveyed what was left in front of her. She had worked so hard, for so long, and these men were utterly spent – but she was hardly just getting started. She knew she would never be able to go back to how it was before, before she had known the pure satisfaction of using five different men for her pleasure at once.

“Now, now, boys,” she announced, planting her hands on her hips. “What makes you think I’m done with you all that soon?” She stood tall and boldly, with a glimmer of deviousness in her eyes as she surveyed her new servants to see who she wanted next in line.


BDSM, Kink, and Fetishes are the topics I have the pleasure of exploring on today’s episode of Myths, Mating, & Mindset with Sex Therapist, Dr. Melvin Phillips. We unpack some common misconceptions about the psychology of kink, the roles of dominance and submission, how pleasure and pain relate, and how to play safely and consensually. Dr. Phillips offers advice and guidance on how to introduce BDSM and kink into your relationships and where to find like-minded people near you. Visit Dr. Phillips at

Here are some questions we answer on this episode:

  • Why would someone choose to feel pain as a direct route to pleasure?
  • Where is it they go in their mind/body to experience that? How is it related to mindfulness?
  • If someone is curious about trying it for the first time with a partner, where would you recommend they start?
  • What are some good/safe rules of play if you want to toy with BDSM and want to do it in a safe way?


Dr. Melvin Lee Phillips, Jr., is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in Washington, DC, Maryland, and Virginia. He will soon be opening his own private practice in New York City. Dr. Phillips has worked in several mental health and substance abuse treatment settings including outpatient community mental health, inpatient treatment, and private practice for the past 12 years. He is a speaker and has lectured on topics including preventative services, anxiety and stress management, caregiving stress, depression in the elderly, mindfulness and cognitive strategies for chronic pain, ethical decision making, and the assessment of mental disorders. He has published in the Journal of Baccalaureate Social Work, conducting a research study on LGBTQ-Affirmative Teaching at Historically Black Colleges and Universities: Understanding Program Directors Views. He holds a Doctor of Education (Ed.D.) degree in Organizational Leadership with an emphasis in Behavioral Health from Grand Canyon University in Phoenix, AZ. In addition, Dr. Phillips holds a Master of Social Work (MSW) degree from Norfolk State University and is an adjunct professor in the Master of Social Work Program with the School of Social Work at Western New Mexico University. Dr. Phillips currently has a private practice in Washington, DC. Where he treats chronic illness and sexual dysfunction.


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The podcast is BACK!!! Most of you know that I recently changed the title of my podcast to MYTHS, MATING, & MINDSET. As much as I love my previous title, F*ck Like a Woman, because of the strength and boldness that it conveys for women to reclaim their bodies and their sexuality, I also really wanted to extend a big figurative bear hug to all of the folks out there who are looking for some optimism and playfulness in their love lives, who might otherwise overlook these empowering messages, and welcome them to our little tribe of independent thinkers.


Truthfully, it took me a while to come up with a title that encapsulated the top 3 themes of my core messages about relationships, sexuality, and love, which really center around deconstructing rigid ways of thinking that limit our full humanity, and redesigning relationships in ways that enhance more meaningful connections with each other that deepen our sense of purpose on this earth, and practicing shifting our mindset to bring out the best in ourselves and each other, which ultimately landed me at Myths, Mating, and Mindset. 

The way I see it is, by understanding how our external world directly shapes how we love ourselves and others, we really empower ourselves to reshape our own reality, which of course, in effect, changes the tribe in which we live. It’s a both/and way to living life. We need to live in harmonious communities with each other just as much as we need individuation to hear the beat of our own drum. Just about everything I study is rooted in my intention to unearth the humanity that lies within all of us. In other words, for those of us who want to kick ass in life and have fun doing it, it’s a bomb ass way to journey through life. 


Let’s talk opening up relationships! Today’s podcast is about our sexy vacation to Desire Resort & Spa Riviera Maya. We’re talking about how to navigate the conversation of opening up your relationship, how to communicate your wants & wishes inside and outside the bedroom, your wandering desire for others, and how to invite another couple/single to play with you while staying at a sexy resort like Desire.

Here are some questions we answer on this episode:

  • What is Desire Resort & Spa?
  • What kinds of couples go there? What is the atmosphere?
  • Why did we choose to go there?
  • What did we learn? About ourselves, about the experience, the lifestyle, open relationships?
  • What did we learn about our own relationship?
  • What did we take away from the experience?
  • Would we go back?
  • Did we leave with any meaningful connections to other couples?
  • What was it like after we got home?

Welcome to episode 31 of F*ck Like a Woman. This is part 2 of our conversation on masculinity where we get real about the challenges men face with strict gender conformity and how it ties in with relationships. Today we’re focusing on sex – the myths, the misconceptions, and the reflections. We unpack some of the biases and challenges that men face in the bedroom.

And to keep you in the loop, during the month of June, I’ll be revamping the podcast to expand the reach of people who want to join in these conversations with us. I’ll be coming back with a brand new title and new episodes in July so enjoy this last release and always feel free to reach out to me at   

Here are a few of the ideas we discuss:

  • Boys’ first experiences with porn and sexual excitement – who is teaching boys about sexual education?
  • Exploring Erectile Dysfunction as a manifestation of a vulnerable internal state of mind: anxiety, self-esteem, body-image, depression, performance anxiety, etc.
  • What are some ways that men would prefer to be treated in relationships?
  • Keeping your partner current on what you want from the relationship sexually and emotionally
  • The importance of sexual communication within relationships and during the heat of the moment
  • The myth that men are “easy” and constantly “ready to go” sexually
  • The patriarchal policing of men by using the term “gay” for a man who doesn’t follow the hetero-normative male code
  • Sexual fluidity is not the same thing as sexual orientation, and the stereotypes of men who are more sexual fluid with the same sex


Welcome to episode 30 of F*ck Like a Woman. Today, I’m sitting down with a room full of diverse men to talk about the challenges of masculinity. The reason I wanted to facilitate this discussion is to bring to light some of the points and perspectives on what it means to be a man in modern day, told by men. Many of my male followers have expressed sentiments that they don’t fit perfectly within the main, traditional box of masculinity. They’ve confided in me that they don’t feel as though they quite measure up in their sex lives, their love lives, and in many other ways. By listening to this group of men speak tonight about their experiences, hopefully my listeners will feel more acceptable in their own skin, and maybe even inspire them to continue these discussions with their own friends, family, and lovers.

Everyone, regardless of how they present or identify, should have a vested interest in loosening the tight grip of patriarchal masculinity because it not only hurts women and LGBTQ people, but it hurts men, too.

Here are a few of the ideas we discuss:

  • The overwhelming statistics of violence by men, not just to others, but to themselves (suicide), and the gaping void of close friends they can turn to in crisis within individualistic societies
  • The myth of the “real man”… who is this mythical man?!
  • The lack of vulnerability men are “allowed” to show, especially when it affects their physical and emotional well-being
  • When the tough guise of manliness serves a purpose as an adaptive mechanism (combat zones, police force, etc) versus when it’s maladaptive (in family life, relationships, with our children, etc)
  • The lack of healthy leadership for boys as they transition into adulthood, that directly impacts their ability to be good, present fathers and learn how to enjoy their sexuality in a healthy way
  • The socialization of men into being autonomous and not asking for help, even when situations are dire


Stay tuned for next week’s continuation of masculinity, where we talk specifically about sex and masculinity. We unpack some of the biases and challenges that men face in the bedroom. See ya next week!

Welcome to episode 29 of F*ck Like a Woman. Today, I’m talking about transgression – what’s behind it, why do we do it, and how do we make sense of it within committed relationships. Just how honest are you willing to get? Not just with your partner, but with yourself, too.

These are a few topics that my partner, Aaron, and I cover today:

  • How are we defining monogamy?
  • How do you affair-proof your relationship?
  • Are you staying fresh and being real with yourself and your partner(s)?
  • Where does attraction for others & crushes fit into a relationship?
  • Where do you fall on the spectrum of monogamy?


Oh, and a disclaimer before you hear this episode: the vibe we’re putting off in this episode did not happen overnight. It took years for us to be this open, honest, and playful with each other, and we wouldn’t have it any other way. Enjoy!


Welcome to Episode 28 of F*ck Like a Woman. Today, I talk with trusted hot sex advisor to millions, the famous Susan Bratton, as she shares all the ways women can orgasm, how to initiate dirty talk, her favorite sex toys, and much more.

Susan Bratton is a champion and advocate for all who desire passionate relationships. Considered the “Dear Abby of Sex,” Susan’s fresh approach and original ideas have helped millions of people of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion.

Married to her husband Tim since 1993, Susan is an author, award-winning speaker, and serial entrepreneur who teaches passionate lovemaking techniques to her fans around the world. Susan has been featured in The New York Times and on CNBC and the TODAY show as well as appearing on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox, and on NBC as the “Marriage Magician.”

Susan is Chair Emeritus of the ad:tech conference; she was both CMO and a member of the Board of Directors for an Anthony Robbins tech start-up as well as serving on numerous boards throughout her career. In 2009, Susan was honored as a “Silicon Valley Woman of Influence” by The Business Journal and as a “Top 10 Internet Pioneer” by AdAge Magazine. In 2010, was bestowed the Lifetime Industry Achievement award by dmg World Media.

Susan’s straight-talking, fearless approach is rooted in her personal experience of watching her sex life wither while she and her husband pursued dynamic careers. When their relationship hit a crisis point, the couple made a fierce commitment to do whatever it took to keep their family together and revive the passion in their marriage. Today, she and her husband have the kind of dream relationship most people long-since stopped believing is even possible—until they discover Susan’s teachings.

Susan is CEO and co-founder (with her husband) of Personal Life Media. Through her company, Susan has authored 20 books including Relationship Magic, The Passion Patch and 30 Romance Tricks That Work Like Magic, as well as her International #1 Amazon best-seller, Sexual Soulmates: The 6 Essentials for Connected Sex.

She has also created and published numerous online courses including her wildly popular Revive Her Drive and Steamy Sex Ed® DVD Collection, as well as programs such as: Seduction Trilogy, Expand Her Orgasm Tonight, The Multi-Orgasmic Lover for Men, Female Liquid Orgasm, and Keep Her Coming.

Millions of couples and singles have been touched by her TV appearances, and Better Lover YouTube channel. Through her Insider’s Club newsletter at Personal Life, Susan gives away, free of charge, countless MP3 audios, videos, articles, and ebooks.

Susan believes that shame-free, frequent sexual pleasure is every man and woman’s birthright:  “After 25 years of marriage, I know from experience that deep, passionate intimacy with my partner is priceless: a priority that tops my list of must-haves alongside good health and the love of family and friends. I have made it my mission to aid anyone who wants the kind of lovemaking that improves with age.”

She and her husband split their time between their home on Mt. Tamalpais in Mill Valley, California and their cozy beach shack in Encinitas, with occasional trips to far-off lands to visit their globe-trotting daughter.


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What is the definition of transgression?

1: to violate a command or law
2: to go beyond a boundary or limit


Welcome to Episode 27 of F*ck Like a Woman. This episode is an erotic story about one woman who found herself enticed by the forbidden: her roommate’s boyfriend. This moral dilemma left her puzzled and conflicted as to why this transgression was so alluring.

As a coach who is greatly inspired by Esther Perel, I’ve always known that the world is not black and white, strictly good or bad. There’s an infinite amount of grey that complicates our human experience, and when we immediately condemn and demonize before we have even sought to understand why, we miss the lessons within the journey, and we disillusion ourselves into believing that mere morality will inoculate us from history repeating itself.

To quote Esther Perel in ‘The State of Affairs’, “The intricacies of love and desires don’t yield to simple categorizations of good and bad, victim and culprit. And to be clear, not condemning doesn’t mean condoning. And there’s a world of difference between understanding and justifying. But when we reduce the conversation to simply passing judgement, we are left with no conversation at all.”


The next weekend, Jessica introduced Samantha to her boyfriend John. John was cute in a nerdy funny way and had nice eyes, full lips, and jet black hair. He was dressed in a black hoodie with torn jeans and Chuck Taylors. When they first met, John couldn’t look away from Samantha. She felt a little shy because she wondered if Jessica could pick up on the vibe John was sending her way. Every time they made eye contact, Samantha would catch John staring deeply at her, before she had to look away. John wasn’t intentionally staring at her or trying to make Sam uncomfortable, but it seemed he couldn’t help himself. He thought she was beautiful, but didn’t have enough self-awareness to hide it.

Every day when Samantha came home from work, Jessica and John were already home in the living room drinking and watching TV. One night, Samantha came home with some food to cook dinner for all of them. She started laying everything out on the counter to wash and prep the food. As she was washing vegetables at the sink, Jessica went upstairs to change out of her work clothes and John walked over to the counter in front of Sam and sat down. He started making conversation and joking around with her, playfully flirting. Sam laughed and kept washing the food. When she looked up from the sink, she noticed that John was staring right at her chest as she scrubbed the potatoes. She noticed it was because her shirt dipped down, showing the top of her bra, and her chest jiggled when she scrubbed. Realizing this, she stopped washing and walked away to prep the other food. When she turned around to get her knife, she caught John staring at her ass. He quickly looked away when he realized she saw him, and embarrassingly changed the subject. Jessica came back downstairs and they all had dinner together, but John avoided long eye contact with Samantha the rest of the night.

The next weekend, Samantha and Jessica made plans to go out with some friends to a bar downtown, and John tagged along. After Samantha got dressed and ready, she walked downstairs wearing tight black leather pants and thigh high boots. When John looked up from his drink and saw her sexy legs gracefully gliding down the stairs, he got excited. His eyes took her all in, working his way up from her sexy heels, to her thick thighs and curvy hips, up toward her small waist and round breasts, draped with a low-cut sweater. He watched her chest bounce up and down as she gracefully landed on each step. Samantha could tell that John was watching her, but she avoided looking at him because it was easier to pretend it wasn’t happening, and she didn’t want to bring more attention to it with Jessica right there. Excitedly, they all piled into a cab and met their friends down at the bar.

An hour into the night, Samantha was having a great time with all her friends, relishing the fact that she had started a new life for herself in this big city. She was feeling so carefree dancing to the music. Jessica grabbed her hand and pulled her onto the dance floor, then waved at John to follow. He followed them onto the dance floor where they all started dancing freely with each other, playfully sandwiching John between the two of them. The next song that came on was loud and sultry so they started grinding harder on each other, with Samantha in front, John behind her, and Jessica in the back. By that point in the night, they were all getting tipsy and naturally their boundaries started getting a little fuzzy. What Jessica might have otherwise considered too close for dancing with her roommate, she was now encouraging John to do with Samantha in the name of having a good time. Jessica seemed to find their dancing entertaining and amusing. In light of Jessica’s relaxed attitude, John decided put his hand on Sam’s waist as they danced. And, seeing that she didn’t push his hand away, he moved it down onto her hips, slowly edging his hand around toward the front of her hips, gently pulling her body in toward his pelvis. Samantha felt a rush of anticipation surge throughout her body. John and Sam grinded in sync with each other for another song, and by this point she could feel his pelvis getting firmer and warmer up against her ass. But to Samantha’s surprise, she didn’t want to push him away, she was getting turned on by how firmly he was pulling her hips toward his waist. She was even turned on that he was getting hard rubbing up against her. She felt so conflicted by the loyalty she felt for her new friend and roommate, yet she was getting so wet feeling his hand in such close proximity to her pussy, knowing at any second he could slip his hand between her legs and no one would know because the bar was so crowded. The thought was driving her crazy, and the alcohol was so strong. Jessica tapped them on the shoulder to go get another drink from the bar. Samantha was partly relieved because she wasn’t sure how much steamier things were going to get with John. When Sam slipped away to go to the bathroom, she was surprised to find her thong was soaked. She was a little embarrassed because John wasn’t even her type, but the way he desired her was incredibly arousing.

A couple hours later, their whole group moved back onto the dance floor, and John found his way behind Samantha again. Testing the waters, he put his hand on the small of her back, and Sam kept dancing, tacitly encouraging him without being too forward. As he moved closer behind her, he lightly grazed her ass all the way down with his hand. Her bottle tingled at his fingers. Feeling more daring this time, John slipped his hand under her sweater around her waist and softly touched her skin, tracing the tips of his fingers across her stomach, caressing her body. Then moving his hand upward underneath her sweater, he slowly traveled all the way up to her breast, touching and squeezing it lightly, stopping to feel and stroke her hardening nipple. Samantha’s knees started to weaken, feeling like her body could collapse into his. She was completely out of her element doing this in public and especially with her roommate’s boyfriend. But she was tipsy and the bar was so packed that their friends couldn’t see what John was doing to her. And yet this made it all the more exciting, knowing they could get caught at any moment, but they were too enthralled in the passion of the moment.

A couple songs later, it was last call and the lights started coming on so they all got back in a cab and rode home. On the way home, John and Samantha tried their best not to give anything away, acting as normal as possible. When they got home, Jessica passed out on the couch downstairs. Still in a foggy haze, John had made his way over to the couch next to Samantha, right next to where Jessica was sleeping. One thing led to another and they started kissing. He put his hand on her leg, rubbing up her thigh, loving how her body felt in her leather pants. Samantha was already so turned on that she could barely wait before she unbuttoned her pants, and shoved his hand on her pussy. When he felt how wet her thong was, his dick got so hard. He rubbed her pussy, wanting to be inside her. She climbed on top of him and started grinding against his dick through his pants. He gripped her hips and shoved her toward him with each thrust. Wanting to move someplace quieter, they climbed the upstairs, step by step barely making it up each one as he followed closely behind her, squeezing, kissing, and biting her ass  through her tight pants. They made it to her bed where he slid off her boots and tight pants. He started kissing her pussy and getting her juices all over his face. She was so wet and messy from all the build-up and anticipation of what as about to happen. He unzipped his pants and stroked himself as he smelled and licked her pussy. After a few minutes, he could tell she was getting close so he slid his finger in her pussy to get it wet, and slipped it into her ass as he licked harder on her clit. She went wild. He put a rubber on and thrust himself inside her. Her pussy was so tight that he erupted with a loud moan when he felt himself inside her. He flipped her over so she could finish on top of him. Gripping her ass with one hand and smacking her ass with the other, she rode him harder, going wild. As she bent down to ride him with her breasts pushed up against his chest, he teasingly pulled her hair and told her, “don’t stop”. She lost it and screamed in ecstasy. Feeling her pussy tightening and pulsating around his dick made him lose it.

Samantha found herself unbelievably turned on by the fact that they could get caught at any moment. At the same time, she felt like a horrible person to her new roommate, but it felt like she couldn’t stop. The more turned on John got, the more turned on she got. They both knew it was wrong and yet that’s exactly what made her want it more. As time passed, Samantha found herself going back to this night as a frequent fantasy and couldn’t figure out why it was so enticing to her. She likes to think she would never do something like that again if the opportunity presented itself, but she still wonders what it was about that fantasy that remains so sexually appealing out of all the other experiences she’s had since.

I wondered to myself if it had something to do with conforming to others’ expectations of her, maybe from striving to be a good girl who didn’t act outside what was expected from her. It seems to be the kind of indiscretion that society expects from men at some point in their life, excusing it as being biologically wrapped up in their DNA, but the story is told differently for women. Maybe she was rebelling against what others expected from her as someone who had always been a people pleaser. I also wondered if there was something intrinsically alluring about doing something so bad. Like a child disobeying her parent, Samantha had knowingly subverted the relationship authority of Jessica and John, right under her nose. John wasn’t even someone Samantha would normally ever be attracted to, but she was erotically hypnotized by the enticement of the forbidden. Samantha was crossing a line, a line that is often considered one of the worst a person could cross, and was doing it almost outright, in a bold and daring demonstration of her freedom and desires. It was as though she was establishing her own authority and autonomy in doing so. My hope for Samantha is that she finds other healthy ways to express herself in the bedroom that can elicit a similar feeling of sexual excitement without the risk and endangerment to another person’s relationship.


That’s it for today everyone, stay tuned for next week’s episode where I talk with hot sex advisor to millions, the famous Susan Bratton, as she talks about all the ways women can orgasm, how to initiate dirty talk, her favorite sex toys, and much more.