I’m a life coach with a passionate interest in sex and relationship issues who decided to use the information I had learned in repairing my own marriage to turn it into a love and sex podcast for women!

On today’s show, my partner and I are discussing at least 5 lessons we’ve learned so far in opening our relationship after our sexy trip to Desire Resorts Riviera Maya (you can listen to our experience there on Episode 32). We talk about privacy vs secrecy, autonomy & freedom, regulating our emotions, and differentiation from our partners.

For relationship or life coaching, you can book a private session with me HERE. Become a Patreon member for just $2 per month at patreon.com/devonevans, allowing you access to 2 erotic short stories per month at $1 per episode!  

What was it like for you the first time you fell in love? Did you fall for someone who was outside your normal type? Love is often inconvenient, and sometimes doesn’t fit into the mold of who you think you should love. It’s a powerful force – mysterious, inspiring, painful, and evocative. Appreciating the changes it inspires within us is often more important than what becomes of the love itself. Listen to this erotic story about a man named Luke who reflects back on a distant memory of falling in love with a young woman at a pivotal time of growth and change in their lives. 

Starting today, September 4th, I will be releasing my erotic stories for Patreon members only. But don’t worry! Membership starts at just $2 per month – so only $1 per episode! With that small contribution, you’ll have access to my new stories every other week. If you appreciate the content that I’m putting out to enhance your erotic mind (and maybe your lover’s), then please go to www.Patreon.com/devonevans and contribute starting with just $2/month. Thanks, lovers!

I would absolutely LOVE it if you would write me a review on iTunes to show some love and support for the show. Your enthusiasm for my work means a lot to me, and keeping the show alive with shares, likes, and reviews is what keeps my wheels turning! Thank you so much and enjoy the episode. 🙂

Here are 10 ways you can revive your erotic spark in your current relationship. My partner, Aaron, and I each give 5 ways that you can revitalize the sexy energy for yourself and your beloved. Depending on if you’re more vanilla or kinky, monogamous or not, you might find some inspiration in these playful ideas.

Take my super short survey here so I can learn more about you as my audience: How kinky & monogamous are you?

In today’s erotic short story, Daniel, a 40-something year old man travels to London in the aftermath of his divorce to experience what it would be like to be a woman’s sex slave, and he finds a bargain when Mistress Anna shares him with her colleagues for the night.

Starting next month on September 4th, I will be releasing my erotic stories for Patreon members only. But don’t worry! Membership starts at just $2 per month – so only $1 per episode! With that small contribution, you’ll have access to my new stories every other week. If you appreciate the content that I’m putting out to enhance your erotic mind (and maybe your lover’s), then please go to www.Patreon.com/devonevans and contribute starting with just $2/month. Thanks, lovers!

Listen to this private conversation with a newly polyamorous couple about how they transitioned from traditional monogamy into polyamory, and what they’ve learned about this relationship style and love in general.

Here are a few things we discuss:

1. the desire to cheat
2. how to establish boundaries
3. the uncertainty of relationship longevity
4. the importance of honesty
5. the partner possessiveness a lot of us struggle with
6. they also give some tips for meeting and connecting with other like-minded individuals who are open to exploring polyamory and open relationships

I would absolutely LOVE it if you would write me a review on iTunes to show some love and support for the show. Your enthusiasm for my work means a lot to me, and keeping the show alive with shares, likes, and reviews is what keeps my wheels turning! Thank you so much and enjoy the episode. 🙂

Today’s episode of Myths, Mating, & Mindset is one of our sexy short stories. This time, it’s about a dancer on a cruise ship named Kim who falls for her boss, and winds up feeling the freedom of surrender.

I would absolutely LOVE it if you would write me a review on iTunes to show some love and support for the show. Your enthusiasm for my work means a lot to me, and keeping the show alive with shares, likes, and reviews is what keeps my wheels turning! Thank you so much and enjoy the episode. 🙂

Want to stop having painful sex, both anal and vaginal, and even use orgasms as pain relievers? Former vagina coach, Dr. Monika Stefanowicz, helps women and men who experience pelvic pain reclaim their sex lives. She teaches her patients how to improve bladder control (postpartum or otherwise), how to have tighter sex, and how to compassionately view ourselves in relation to chronic pain to enjoy sexual pleasure again. Dr. Monika is not your typical doctor who can often seem unapproachable and sterilized. Instead, she makes talking about sexual pain fun and lighthearted, adding in humor to the conversations about pee, poop, and sex!


Dr. Monika Stefanowicz is a physical therapist who specializes in pee, poop, sex, and persistent pelvic pain problems. She helps her clients understand the most intimate parts of their body so they can enjoy all that life has to offer. Dr. Monika uses a holistic spirit, mind, body, and emotion approach with each client to create their roadmap for healing. She earned her Bachelors in Health Science and Doctorate in Physical Therapy from Springfield College before pursuing residency training in pelvic health at Brooks Rehabilitation. Dr. Monika has been happily blogging about pelvic health & holistic wellness since 2015 at www.liftlaughkegel.com. A first-generation Polish immigrant, she now calls Silicon Valley, California home. She can regularly be spotted reading/writing at local coffee shops and exploring farmer’s markets on the weekends. The best way to reach Dr. Monika is via Instagram @liftlaughkegel.

Today’s episode of Myths, Mating, and Mindset is another erotic short story. This one is about a woman named Laney who has always fantasized about having a room full of sexy men that she gets to use for her pleasure, making them wait in line to please her. And she finally gets her wish.


Laney surveyed the men in front of her. And she knew that all her hard work had been worth it.

It had started off as an inkling at the back of her mind, a mere thought that perhaps she needed more than the bare minimum to keep her satisfied. She’d been with a lot of men, and not one of them seemed able to keep up with her searing libido. 

And so, like a good modern twenty-something year old woman, she had turned to the internet. And there, she had found communities of women bemoaning the same problems as her. Most of them were just complaining about their lack of satisfying partners. But there was one small group that caught her eye. A group who seemed better suited to her needs.

It shocked her at first to know there were other women like her out there. Other women who craved what she craved. But there they were – the only difference being, of course, that they were actually indulging their wide-ranging tastes, any way they saw fit to do so.

She made herself part of their society as soon as she got the chance. And she watched, as these women indulged themselves in ways she had only imagined before. Different men, any way they wanted. Submissive men of every creed and colour and build, all willing to do anything these women  wanted. Usually several of them at a time. At first, Laney wasn’t sure she could handle more than one. 

But when the opportunity arose for her to travel down to Vegas to meet with the group for the first time, she took it immediately.

She flew out to Vegas not knowing what to expect. The group told her she would be taking over the complementary suite for the night, and she couldn’t imagine what was waiting there for her. Most of the women involved in this club were older, cougars, searching after many years to find someone to satisfy them. Not Laney. She was just starting her journey, and vital, full of…

Full of men. 

That was the only thought that crossed her mind as she walked into the room for the first time, the room that had been filled with the men who were waiting for her. All five of them. Two confident men, strong and tall and broad-shouldered; another eager man with a shaved head and a thin wiry frame, and two very well hung men with muscular builds. They were already naked. All of them, kneeling there. Waiting for her. She felt like a kid on Christmas morning.

“Now, where should I begin?” She said out loud, scanning the men before her and tapping her finger on her lip. Surely, all of them at once would serve to satisfy her. She intended to find out, that was for sure.

“You, there,” she ordered the guy with the shaven head. “On your knees, and open your mouth.”

She watched with awe as he did as he was told. How long had she imagined someone obeying her every command like that? She moved towards him, and rolled up her dress – she had gone without panties, as advised – and slowly lowered her pussy down on to his mouth. His cock started to grow from the image of her thighs coming down on his face, and he smelled her juices between her lips.

And with that, the night belonged to her. She was dizzy with fulfilling her fantasies the way she had always craved, using these men as she saw fit. She let them all go down on her, changing position, parting her legs and grasping their heads and pushing them roughly down on to her pussy, rubbing their nose along her clit, grinding in rhythm with the friction of their faces. Normally, she would have hurried to get to the fucking to make sure her male partner didn’t grow bored, but here and now, she knew that this was all about her. She came once, twice, three times – already losing count as she grinded her clit against their tongues, delighting in the glistening wetness she left on their faces. 

She took one of the well hung men first, lowering herself down slowly onto his gorgeous cock and letting out a long moan as she eased it into herself. She rode him until she felt his cock twitch inside her, and grasped his face to watch him come – she came again herself watching him tip over the edge and feeling the girth of his dick widening inside her pussy.

After he was spent, she pushed him to his knees behind her as she took the cock of the next man – one of the tall guys, thick and solid, who hitched her off the ground and held her in place as he fucked her. The man behind her ran his tongue over her asshole, sending her panting towards the edge. She set the pace firmly, ordering the man she was fucking to slow down and then when to speed up, digging her nails roughly into his back to let him know when he was being a good boy. She came twice with him, her pussy already aching – and aching for more.

“Stroke yourselves while you watch,” she breathlessly ordered the others. “I want you ready when I get to you.”

And they were. She fucked them all in turn, and used them any other way she saw fit. She made one man look into her eyes as she rode his dick till she came, and then lifted herself off of him. When it came his turn to fuck her again, he went so hard and so desperate she felt her pussy spasming at once. 

She came a total of sixteen times that night, or maybe more, she lost count. By the time she was done with the men, they had all fucked her, sucked her, licked her, and pleased her any way they could. Panting, she caught her breath and surveyed what was left in front of her. She had worked so hard, for so long, and these men were utterly spent – but she was hardly just getting started. She knew she would never be able to go back to how it was before, before she had known the pure satisfaction of using five different men for her pleasure at once.

“Now, now, boys,” she announced, planting her hands on her hips. “What makes you think I’m done with you all that soon?” She stood tall and boldly, with a glimmer of deviousness in her eyes as she surveyed her new servants to see who she wanted next in line.


BDSM, Kink, and Fetishes are the topics I have the pleasure of exploring on today’s episode of Myths, Mating, & Mindset with Sex Therapist, Dr. Melvin Phillips. We unpack some common misconceptions about the psychology of kink, the roles of dominance and submission, how pleasure and pain relate, and how to play safely and consensually. Dr. Phillips offers advice and guidance on how to introduce BDSM and kink into your relationships and where to find like-minded people near you. Visit Dr. Phillips at www.drleephillips.com.

Here are some questions we answer on this episode:

  • Why would someone choose to feel pain as a direct route to pleasure?
  • Where is it they go in their mind/body to experience that? How is it related to mindfulness?
  • If someone is curious about trying it for the first time with a partner, where would you recommend they start?
  • What are some good/safe rules of play if you want to toy with BDSM and want to do it in a safe way?


Dr. Melvin Lee Phillips, Jr., is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in Washington, DC, Maryland, and Virginia. He will soon be opening his own private practice in New York City. Dr. Phillips has worked in several mental health and substance abuse treatment settings including outpatient community mental health, inpatient treatment, and private practice for the past 12 years. He is a speaker and has lectured on topics including preventative services, anxiety and stress management, caregiving stress, depression in the elderly, mindfulness and cognitive strategies for chronic pain, ethical decision making, and the assessment of mental disorders. He has published in the Journal of Baccalaureate Social Work, conducting a research study on LGBTQ-Affirmative Teaching at Historically Black Colleges and Universities: Understanding Program Directors Views. He holds a Doctor of Education (Ed.D.) degree in Organizational Leadership with an emphasis in Behavioral Health from Grand Canyon University in Phoenix, AZ. In addition, Dr. Phillips holds a Master of Social Work (MSW) degree from Norfolk State University and is an adjunct professor in the Master of Social Work Program with the School of Social Work at Western New Mexico University. Dr. Phillips currently has a private practice in Washington, DC. Where he treats chronic illness and sexual dysfunction.


Dr. Melvin Lee Phillips, Jr., Ed.D., LCSW, CSAC Licensed Psychotherapist (DC, MD, VA) Certified Substance Abuse Counselor (VA) Capitol Hill Consortium for Counseling & Consultation

650 Pennsylvania Avenue SE 4th Floor, Suite 440 Washington, DC 20003

Phone: (202) 544-5440 Cell: (757) 582-3233

Virginia Branch Office: 2001 Richmond Highway Suite 1201

Arlington, VA 22202 (703) 413-3028



Pronouns: He/Him/His

The podcast is BACK!!! Most of you know that I recently changed the title of my podcast to MYTHS, MATING, & MINDSET. As much as I love my previous title, F*ck Like a Woman, because of the strength and boldness that it conveys for women to reclaim their bodies and their sexuality, I also really wanted to extend a big figurative bear hug to all of the folks out there who are looking for some optimism and playfulness in their love lives, who might otherwise overlook these empowering messages, and welcome them to our little tribe of independent thinkers.


Truthfully, it took me a while to come up with a title that encapsulated the top 3 themes of my core messages about relationships, sexuality, and love, which really center around deconstructing rigid ways of thinking that limit our full humanity, and redesigning relationships in ways that enhance more meaningful connections with each other that deepen our sense of purpose on this earth, and practicing shifting our mindset to bring out the best in ourselves and each other, which ultimately landed me at Myths, Mating, and Mindset. 

The way I see it is, by understanding how our external world directly shapes how we love ourselves and others, we really empower ourselves to reshape our own reality, which of course, in effect, changes the tribe in which we live. It’s a both/and way to living life. We need to live in harmonious communities with each other just as much as we need individuation to hear the beat of our own drum. Just about everything I study is rooted in my intention to unearth the humanity that lies within all of us. In other words, for those of us who want to kick ass in life and have fun doing it, it’s a bomb ass way to journey through life. 


Let’s talk opening up relationships! Today’s podcast is about our sexy vacation to Desire Resort & Spa Riviera Maya. We’re talking about how to navigate the conversation of opening up your relationship, how to communicate your wants & wishes inside and outside the bedroom, your wandering desire for others, and how to invite another couple/single to play with you while staying at a sexy resort like Desire.

Here are some questions we answer on this episode:

  • What is Desire Resort & Spa?
  • What kinds of couples go there? What is the atmosphere?
  • Why did we choose to go there?
  • What did we learn? About ourselves, about the experience, the lifestyle, open relationships?
  • What did we learn about our own relationship?
  • What did we take away from the experience?
  • Would we go back?
  • Did we leave with any meaningful connections to other couples?
  • What was it like after we got home?