This is a FUN episode! Today, I’m exploring some psychological theories behind some of the most popular sexual fantasies. It’s more playful than last week’s episode of part 1, but I highly recommend you watch that video here if you haven’t already so that you can follow along better with this one. And I strongly suggest you watch/listen along with the video version rather than audio by clicking here.
Here are a few of the fantasies I cover on this podcast:
4.Diapered & Babied
7.Group Sex – (men on men, women on women, cuckolding, orgies, etc.)
It’s important to educate yourself on where your fantasies come from and what they might mean, but be cautious not to use sexual fantasy interpretations as a one-size-fits-all explanation, as it depends on the person and their unique circumstances. But theories can bring us generalizations that can be helpful at times to explain commonalities among large groups. There will always be exceptions and outliers of course, as a myriad of factors influence our fantasies.
Some things to keep in mind as we delve into the deeper meanings of sexual fantasies:
- All of the meanings depend on the person
- The meaning, the thought, the feeling, or the behavior is subjective and not formulaic, and it doesn’t always mean the same thing
- But I will say that if, as we go along, something strikes a cord in you or you find yourself smiling or laughing, that’s probably your internal needle saying, hey! I find some truth to this!
- There is another fact about this topic that we cannot escape, and that is as Esther Perel says, one person’s fantasy is another person’s turn-off. However, once you can educate yourself on what your own fantasies mean, it will grease the wheels in understanding what your partner’s fantasies might mean so that you can try to counteract any fear, shame, or embarrassment that you both might feel in revealing them. And in other cases, one might have no intention of actually acting upon a fantasy in real life. Fantasy and reality are two very different things in the world of human sexuality. I cannot stress that enough. Just because you fantasize about something does not necessarily mean you want to or would ever want to act on it.